Book Cover: Boundaries by Dr Henry Cloud

Topics covered in this book:

  • Boundaries and limits
  • Responsibility
  • Guilt and shame
  • Beliefs
  • Choice
  • Consequences
  • Rescuing
  • Being a victim
  • Taking care of ourselves
  • Separateness
  • Reacting versus acting proactively
  • Expressing boundaries in healthy ways
  • Our feelings are warning signs to problems
  • Knowing when to say no
  • What we have the power to change and what not

It is a no-brainer that the world is full of problems. One of the biggest is a factor many of us are unaware of: boundaries. Most of our issues with other people, ourselves, religion and working lives can be traced to a simple lack of boundaries. This book is all about restoring our own internal sense of belonging and safety by using the small word “no”.


A major insight I took from this book is that love does not mean you always have to say “yes”. What a revelation! The author’s view is that healthy relationships are built on the very freedom of being able to refuse and confront. Not only does this book inform you; it also shows you how to do this. This book is written from a very Christian worldview. Nevertheless, you will find that it still carries a lot of weight even if you choose to ignore the almost excessive use of Bible verses.


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